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It's Okay to Have a Life Outside Motherhood
Now that I am a mother, I sometimes think back to that time in my life when things were carefree and easy — when my spunky side was front and center.
Being Comfortable in My Own Skin
I fell in love with a man who has always been comfortable being himself. I think that’s one of the reasons I fell in love with him so quickly. I, on the other hand, haven’t always been able to say the same about myself. I think back to the “old” me who would change her clothes and sometimes even her personality for someone else.
My Identity Can't Be Found in a Mirror
The parts of Me I miss most are not parts I can see in a rearview mirror or parts some stranger can see in the baby food aisle at the grocery store. Me is not some shiny exterior, lacquered and gleaming.
My Family is Like a Tapestry
Music, dancing, and laughter. These are some of my earliest memories of growing up in a Puerto Rican, Jamaican, Chinese household. My family is a mix of cultures, woven together like a tapestry with colorful, contrasting designs that somehow fit perfectly together.
Forgiving The Girl I Was
The woman I strive to be, the most joyful and powerful version of myself, has always been there, even when she was buried so deep under pain and desperation that I did not know her. She is who I discover as I learn to truly trust myself. A deeper self-love celebrates the ways I am becoming her.
Feeling Like Myself After Motherhood
Sitting down at the table, warm mug in hand, I touch the keyboard. The screen of my computer comes to life, a blank page ready and waiting to be filled. It’s only taken five years of motherhood, but I feel like myself here.
Reflections After Divorce: Am I Enough?
I finally cried and let go of the dream of “maybe someday” with him. And the weight began to lessen.